Feelings of Loneliness and Isolation in Ministry Kids: New Research

Clare Bruce -

Kids from Christian ministry families face a unique set of challenges, and new research shows that significant numbers of them often feel lonely and misunderstood.

These findings are the result of the Australian Ministry Kids' Wellbeing Survey, conducted by clinical psychologist Valerie Ling from the Centre for Effective Serving. The first-of-its-kind study explores the real-time experiences of ministry children, such as pastor’s kids and missionary kids.

The survey collected responses from over 100 children across various denominations, giving invaluable insights into the emotional, social, and mental health challenges faced by kids growing up in ministry families.

Key findings include:

  • Almost half of the ministry kids surveyed admitted to feeling some levels of loneliness.
  • About a third of participants felt that their parents did not fully understand them.
  • About a third reported feeling significantly bothered by how different they felt from their peers.
  • Slightly more than a third said they did not spend enough time with their parents.

Valerie said that while many ministry kids cherish their faith and community, their very real struggles should not be overlooked.

“These children are often held to higher standards, feel isolated due to frequent relocations, and experience the pressures of their parents' demanding roles,” she said. “These results are a call to action from the kids themselves.”

Podcast Gives Guidance on Caring for Ministry Kids

In Season 2 of the Clergy Wellbeing Down Under Podcast, Valerie (the host) speaks with expert guests to gain guidance and wisdom on taking care of ministry kids. Topics include:

  • The Hidden Challenges and Strengths of Third Culture Kids (TCKs)
  • Supporting Ministry Families with Neurodivergent Children
  • Growing up Between Continents and Churches
  • Navigating Parenting and Ministry

The Australian Ministry Kids' Wellbeing Survey is a follow-on from the Clergy Wellbeing Survey conducted in 2023, which found that about a third of ministers had seriously considered resigning due to loneliness and the impact of ministry on their families. These findings led to the development of the kids’ study, to assess how the next generation is coping with these pressures.

To find out more about Valerie’s work with leaders and families in ministry, head to www.effectiveserving.com.au.

For media comment and interviews, please contact Valerie Ling at contact@effectiveserving.com.au.